Curious to hear some more recommendations, I settled on using lxterminal which works well enough. I couldn't get wezterm to recognize fonts on ALpine no matter what I did, kitty doesn't support tabs and ghosttty sounds like it has issues with ssh connections? I feel like I tried most at some point but if anyone has suggestions for a tabbed terminal emulator nicer than lxterminal, ideally with transparency, I'd love to hear them.

As a counterpoint to Ghostty ssh. I have literally never had an issue and I manage a large cluster of boxes that run everything from centos 7 to rocky 10. All from ghostty on a Mac.