All those things may be true but at the end of the day guys like Jobs and Trump are like oil and water personality wise.

Trump would have invariably said some stupid shit about Jobs publicly or to his face privately and Jobs would have never forgot it and would have obsessed with hurting Trump over it.

For better or worse that's just the kind of guy he was.

Did you know him or ever speak with him in person?

I have while working in Apple in a critical engineering group, and the negatives you keep citing seem to have died off in his 20s, at which time they indelibly (deservedly) tainted public perception. the post NeXT 'return' seemed very very different than what you describe, from in person experience.