From gp:

> Forcing people into a way to think via software is fundamentally authoritarian and sad.

Completely agree.

I understand the problem, and while I see this as a good faith attempt to solve it, something doesn't quite sit right about the framing for me. Really, what's happening is just that certain rules of behavior and language being enforced. And that's fine! That's what communities are. You're allowed to do different kinds of things in different places.

I'd frame it that way rather than the current, more paternalistic framing. There isn't a universal way to be respectful, or to argue. People have different thresholds for aggression, sarcasm, and so on.

Just like signs at the library say "No talking" or "No eating", you might think of this as a way to put up certain signs for your particular community. Configurable knobs to create the kind of place you want. But it's not about "teaching" people anything. It's about saying, "Here, we do things this way. If you like that, come and play. If you don't, this place is not for you."