A bit crude, maybe a bit hurt and angry, but has some truth in it.

A few things help a lot (for BOTH sides - which is weird to say as the two sides should be US vs Threat Actors, but anyway):

1. Detach your identity from your ideas or work. You're not your work. An idea is just a passerby thought that you grabbed out of thin air, you can let it go the same way you grabbed it.

2. Always look for opportunities to create a dialogue. Learn from anyone and anything. Elevate everyone around you.

3. Instead of constantly looking for reasons why you're right, go with "why am I wrong?", It breaks tunnel vision faster than anything else.

Asking questions isn't an attack. Criticizing a design or implementation isn't criticizing you.

Thank you,

One of the "security people".