Maybe because most of them actually are chill dads! See this one of the top posts by score on r/aoe2 https://www.reddit.com/r/aoe2/s/X7TgxJetMp

I am a chill dad and I rediscovered aoe2 a few months ago, after being addicted to Age of Mythology. Previously it was Songs of Syx, Foundation, Farthest Frontier... I think we're just a different type of gamers.