Step one reframe the problem not as an attack or accusation, instead as an observation.

Step two request justification, apply pressure

Step three give them an out by working with you

How shall to frame if there is actually a problem, which is not only an observation?

nchmy an hour ago | parent | prev [-]

what do you do when they are not operating in good faith?

	▲	vidarh an hour ago \| parent [-]
		One of the effects of communicating this way is that people who are not operating in good faith will tend to quickly out themselves, and often getting them to do that is enough.