> For me the point is that if you feel uncomfortable over something that is widespread and considered normal social etiquette, it's on you to deal with feeling uncomfortable, and you can't really expect everyone else to change their behaviour just for you.

Ah, the classic "fuck the neurodivergent" stance.

I think the poster above may have accidentally worded their response a little too personally, but their point is valid and not against neurodivergent people (or, at least, there is a version that is close to their argument that is so).

It's perfectly fine to ask people to change be careful in their correspondence to a specific person to avoid certain issues.

It's not fine, however, even for neuro divergent people, to expect social norms to change for everyone to match their particular preferences.

If we read the original article as representing a request from the author to specifically not answer emails to them by apologizing for replying late, that's a perfectly fine request that anyone corresponding with them should follow (once they become aware of it). If we read it as a general recommendation to everyone to change this clear social norm, then it's not fine, the justification given (one person finds this puts some kind of pressure on them, and others might too) is not strong enough to warrant everyone else changing their behavior pre-emptively.

No, it's a fatigue of entitled people who react irrationally and think society should pander to their psychological quirks. Or worse, those who enjoy manipulating others by taking offence. A reddit / bluesky self diagnosis of "neurodivergent" doesn't entitle one to be an asshole.

You're taking my comment out of context. This isn't about neurodivergents, it's about someone who thinks everyone should conform to his highly detailed rules (the article isn't only about not apologising - he has other demands on structure, content, and even plaintext vs html) when sending him emails.

Please describe the alternative stance, and how it scales to societies and casual acquaintences.

He can just stop using e-mail if he has such disturbances. This is like somebody freaking out because their neighbour said hello.

Or a bird chirped in a tree, or whatever triggers hackers to loose their mind nowadays. Maybe some branches moved in the wind.