Well one, don't look up to people you personally don't know. Parasocial relationships are not healthy. Look into your local community for people to be mentors or help you.

That said I like Bryan Cantrill as an engineer and leader, but I would never put him on a pedestal.

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oconnor663 3 hours ago | parent [-]

On the other hand, it's normal to have heroes, and to need to have them.

	▲	Eldt 2 hours ago \| parent \| next [-]
		Heroes like Spiderman and Batman? Or strangers that put on a mask, and whose public image is maintained by PR firms?
	▲	kortilla an hour ago \| parent \| prev [-]
		Not really, that’s what leads to parasocial relationships. Nobody is flawless and part of becoming an adult is learning to admire specific qualities rather than obsess over individuals.