"How did that make you feel"

It made me feel like I'm talking with someone role-playing a therapist; it's just my worldview but if I want to talk about how something made feel I will talk about it but dislike to be directly inquired, is evident that this is way of thinking is more common in men than women of course.

There are a lot of ways to inflect this question. To ask it bare is usually not the best.

Note in the authors third approach they first validate the feelings and then ask for more details. That is a really great move. Tailoring that to the vibe of the situation is where it’s at. It really does work like a charm.

It definitely depends on rapport and how authentic someone is being. If someone asks me this and I know they genuinely care about me, I'd be happy to share. If there's less rapport, it will definitely feel like a person who can't read the room is trying some sort of social mind trick.