Related but unrelated, but we had issue with breastfeeding and the only help that was valid was being informed to go to WIC as they could provide guidance. All medical adjacent people treated it like it was a lack of effort, when it was breaking her down and making her feel worthless. I think the WIC people helped more just in their lack of judgement made it less stressful, or it was just timing.

Our child also got stuck in the canal during birth and there was a good 30 seconds where the midwife from the hospital was trying to encourage to doctor who was to step in to let here keep trying, my kid came out white and took the longest 30-60 seconds to take their first breath. Never experienced so much dunning-kurger all at once. I had read a few week before that about medical professionals talking about how ominous a quiet birth it and was just zoned out as that was exactly what happened and I could sense all the tension. Then people from children services start demanding umbilical cord because my fiance had failed for MJ on her first prenatal vist, she quit smoking as soon as we knew and never failed a test after wards. But it all felt like an extreme lack of compassion. Then I was ostracised because I didnt want to cut the cord while I just thought my kid was dead and these social workers are trying to insert themselves in the process and its all chaos for no reason. The only good thing was a nurse pretty much told them to fuck off and wait in a nice but check yourself kinda way.

But multiple times people cared about their own ego, or their perceived power than actually attempt to do a compassionate job.