The rule is simple IMO: whatever you’re doing, if it impacts people beyond your own sphere then you’re the problematic one.

Playing loud music, your neighbours can hear it => you’re the problem

Smoking and having the smoke pollute your neighbours air => you’re the problem

Your comment impacted me, so I assume you'll post an apology for this deeply problematic behavior of yours?

Plenty of times the fault is with the apartment, etc.: if the reasonable noise of me living disrupts my neighbors, that's bad design. Different people work different shifts - I don't see why the morning person should have to hold off on a morning shower just because the plumbing wakes up their neighbor, nor why the night-shift worker should have to hold off on doing laundry just because that wakes the morning person up.