> I know if a car I'm in is driving safely. I can ask the driver to calm down or let me off.

Do you know that all the other cars on the road that might hit yours are being driven safely?

How do you feel about busses and trains?

> And have you thought about airplane landing? It's insane. This big clunky metal bird full of literal jet fuel coming in at like 400kmh or whatever, bouncing around on the tarmac as it's desperately trying to regain control and slow down.

A car is a metal box full of fuel kept under control by four rubber balloons.

At least a plane is heavily monitored for safety, checked before every flight, and controlled by highly trained professionals.

> Honestly I don't see how a rational person could not be stressed out in that situation.

A rational person would not be worried. The fear is very much an irrational reaction and a psychological problem that a few people have. Most of us will happily go to sleep on a long flight and our biggest fear is boredom.