As a Brit, the birthday card example feels oddly American. The effect seems plausible, but the UK equivalent slight would be something much more informal

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pinnochio 7 hours ago | parent | next [-]

I wonder if this is generationally specific. I'm an American and have zero expectation that anybody at work should acknowledge my birthday.

On the other hand, I can understand feeling slighted if the manager consistently recognizes their employees' birthdays but overlooks mine.

	▲	SoftTalker 3 hours ago \| parent [-]
		My only experience with acknowledging birthdays at work is that you do it yourself if you want to. Most jobs I've had, birthdays are just not recognized at all, but at one employer the tradition was that you brought in donuts to share on your birthday (if you wanted to--it wasn't required of course).

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t-3 4 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

As an American, I would be totally creeped out if a manager even knew my birthday, let alone gave me a card.

When I've seen people feel slighted in the workplace, it's usually due to uneven praise or criticism, or discriminatory stuff like passing over all the black workers with years of experience to promote the one white guy who's been there for 6 months.

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dbcurtis 3 hours ago | parent [-]

Well, if your manager can see your employee file (which they can.... certainly in Worlday) they will know your birthday. Oddly, at my employer, celebration of individual birthdays is discouraged, I have heard it is because it might make someone feel uncomfortable being called out for aging. As someone who is probably in the oldest 1% of the company... I find that amusingly curious. Birthdays are a good excuse for a team celebration, and that is almost always good team bonding.

	▲	eep_social 2 hours ago \| parent [-]
		A company I worked for used start date anniversaries rather than birthday for a variety of reasons.

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dghlsakjg 4 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

The example wasn’t about birthday cards specifically in my reading. The example was more about a manager selectively deprioritizing/violating a policy that exists for the sole benefit of the employee.