JP Resident, and LGBT.

The vast majority of the "rules" apply only in extreme business situations, generally in the oldest Japanese companies.

Outside of that, the Japanese are extremely forgiving of those that are visiting not following _every single custom_. There's an understanding that so long as you're not disrupting the peace (being super loud, making a mess, etc) then a level of tolerance is applied.

LGBT is much of the same way where, your personal feelings and decisions don't impact everyone else, and thus it's not their business to decide what you can/can't do.

Once you're living here, there's some expectation that you start learning and participating in customs and traditions, but even that's extremely flexible.

Thanks! The people were were visiting weren't actually very traditional. I had a feeling they were a lot more accepting than I was told. And I'm not a loud person ever.

Now I wish I could go back some time to really experience it :)