Yeah, I am still learning to not be logical and fix whatever ails her. Often she really just wants to be heard, not solutions.

I am ~30 years old, hopefully I will be able to just hear, without offering any solutions. It bothers me too. I am a SWE because I love solving problems!

> It bothers me too. I am a SWE because I love solving problems!

In my case, I've recently been wondering whether I really love solving problems, or rather just hate stupid bullshit and solving it - quickly and efficiently - is usually the best way to make it go away for good.

In many cases, the behavior is identical - I just find myself to be motivated by frustration more often than curiosity these days.