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Use Social Media Mindfully(danielleheberling.xyz)
45 points by mooreds 7 hours ago | 28 comments
galleywest200 2 hours ago | parent | next [-]

My rule for 2026 is to limit short-form media. No Twitter/X, no Bluesky, no Mastodon, no Instagram, no TikTok. If it is designed to be short-form (limited characters, quick videos) then it is not for me in 2026.

I had already avoided short-form video but I added short-form text this year.

taurath an hour ago | parent | next [-]

I dropped Google news and Reddit in the last few weeks. I have watched several people have nervous breakdowns, coworkers report having to step back from everything, one even said he’d developed a twitch. However informed we desire to be, that desire seems to be usurped by this constant spin-up mechanism of current media.

HN is probably gonna have to go soon too for me, I have enough ways to keep informed, and it’s hard to feel informed while pretending many events that are deeply effecting everyone I know’s lives don’t exist. I don’t particularly want HN to become about US politics, but I also don’t like that ycombinator is run by, for and with people who I don’t share values with.

It seems like the majority opinion is it’s okay to commit moral suicide to make money nowadays - I never previously felt like the word “depravity” could accurately describe the day to day culture of startups and technology. There are many exceptions (enough to not leave the industry entirely) and perhaps it’s the rule that most people are appalled at Thiel, Musk and Altman, but idk. To me the only correct move against a vampire is to not let them into your house.

Aeglaecia 40 minutes ago | parent [-]

when vampires are knocking at everyones front door , a sizeable proportion of the populace will be vampirized , such that any barricades to your domicile will be inevitably breached

webdoodle 14 minutes ago | parent [-]

You have to welcome vampires in.

jader201 an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

The whole world would be a better place if all of these disappeared.

(Add to this YouTube Shorts.)

SilverElfin 26 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

It’s a great rule, but it is still a problem when most of society uses short form stuff. Because they will be influenced by it and they will vote based on it. And they will end up affecting you anyways.

edbaskerville an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

It is possible for a devoted individual to do this, but it is not possible to solve deep societal problems one devoted individual at a time. We still need massive regulation of addiction-based business models.

cdrnsf 4 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I can "finish" reading my Mastodon timeline because it's not designed to scroll endlessly. Then I read a book.

estimator7292 3 hours ago | parent [-]

I open Mastodon many times a day, see what my actual friends are really doing, smile, and go back to my day. It's lovely.

ChrisMarshallNY 5 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I just don't do Facebook, any more. It's been ages since I logged in.

I never really did Twitter/Twatter, or anything else.

The closest thing I have to social media, is HN comments.

tsumnia 3 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I'm still on Facebook (and Digg for those HNers that hop on to all the tech boards - you know I see you), but it's to keep up with some family that are there. But I adopted a simple catchphrase (GET OFF THE INTERNET) and time my posts for Sunday mornings to get all them folks that were waking up and immediately scrolling. Repeat that for a few weeks, and I think its helped give people the "please disconnect" message.

I'm a huge wrestling and movie dork, so... screens. And the embedded videos on Reddit didn't help since I could watch wrestling on /r/SquaredCircle rather than support the product I like. In conversations, I've blamed The Walking Dead, as that was the first show I recall encouraging people to "hop online to chat" while the new episodes aired. Then "live tweeting" became a thing and here we are.

Friends and family are still there, but they've at least gone from the "grow your business online" or "complain about politics" to talking about the NFL, or a painting they finished, or some music piece they're working on.

I still want to disconnect more, but we don't really have a cure for "shiny rock addiction" yet.

PlatoIsADisease 5 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

As much as others seem to hate Snapchat, I seem to avoid all the fake news because its just friends on snapchat.

Strava is pretty great too. No fake news on there.

4Chan? Well, I doubt any company wants to get caught astroturfing on 4chan, but I do think there are government psych-ops on it.

Facebook/IG/Reddit/HN? Dangerous stuff if you are trying to avoid fake news. I'll continue to consume. But I come in highly skeptical.

Mobius01 5 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

My mental health improved in meaningful ways when I dropped all social media close to a decade ago. Now I can feel the impact when someone insists I look at some shared item they sent me on Instagram or whatever. I´d rather not return to algorithm-driven services if I can avoid them.

fny an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Is it possible to use cocaine mindfully?

I encourage you to compare using YouTube with videos on the right hidden. It will disturb you how easily they can trick you to click.

Intstagram and friends are far, far worse.

markerz 32 minutes ago | parent [-]

Cocaine (the powder) is extracted from the coca leaf, which indigenous South Americans have chewed for over 8000 years. While the synthetic drug is insanely addictive, the natural form is still commonly used as a mild stimulant, probably safer than caffeine in coffee. So yes?

neom 4 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Shameless plug for the thing I built: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=46672734 - meepr, basically not algo driven (except the hashtags are curated), no recommendations etc, if you wanna "grow" on it, you need to tell your friends like the good old days. It's just run by me, not planning on having it run by anyone else, if people like it I'll add a subscription to cover the server cost. (check out the retro theme!! :))

dfajgljsldkjag 3 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

It is such a relief to see someone say you do not have to delete your accounts to be healthy. I find myself opening these apps purely out of habit when I am bored or anxious. The idea of pausing to ask yourself why you are logging in is something I definitely need to try.

Aenorium 4 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I'd encourage the author to look into the difference between mindfulness and intention. From reading their approach, it seems like they are really encouraging people to use the platforms intentionally. From my experience, mindfulness is correlated more closely with awareness than it is intention.

I'm recently restarting an approach to social media and I'm looking at it with fresh eyes. One thing that I wish more of us would agree on would be to strongly prefer platforms that are friendly to privacy, or at least anonymity. Starting new accounts, I was surprised to find the level of intrusion required to get, for example, a new Twitter account up and running. Contrast that with a new HN account, which requires nothing but a username and password.

Occasionally going through the onboarding steps for these platforms can be a real eye-opener on how the platforms have changed.

jrowen an hour ago | parent [-]

Not sure why this was killed. I think the point about mindfulness and intention is valid under the modern lens of "mindfulness" (as opposed to the older and more general concept of "be mindful of..."), which is closer to meditation and being present.

I also agree that there is a value to anonymous platforms that is underrepresented in today's landscape. Anonymous like 4chan or Secret, not even pseudonymous (as it turns out, I had an idea for such an experimental discussion platform...). I don't think they need to supplant identity-based platforms per sé but fill another niche.

add-sub-mul-div 5 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

When I left Twitter and Reddit there felt like a loss of what those sites used to be. The sites I replaced them with are off-ramps, I'm not letting myself get as engaged with them. If they go bad too, they won't feel like a loss.

AznHisoka 4 hours ago | parent [-]

What dod u replace them with?

coffeefirst 17 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

In effect, I got rid of the middlemen.

I text friends and family, call a few, and ideally have people over and grill.

For news, go to the source. People used to subscribe to newspapers and magazines for every interest under the sun. Add in podcasts and newsletters.

Technically I still have an industry Slack or two and a local Discord for parents, but those are basically just more groupchat.

Also when you go to do the "what do I need from here" exercise you realize how much of it's just worthless. I dropped Reddit and added one RSS feed from a local bookstore to find out about new books.

In the end, the algorithm was an unnatural way to read.

shimman 4 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

What worked for me was just engaging in my local community more. There are a lot of great people out there, many of them are just a few houses down from you.

I can assure you, whatever hobby or interest you have, there are others that want to do it with you too. Find those people.

Also read the book Tribe by Sebastian Junger.

swader999 4 hours ago | parent [-]

Volunteering especially

add-sub-mul-div 3 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

I use Bluesky and Lemmy a bit, but not as much as I'd previously used Twitter and Reddit.

sneak 3 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

> With that said, social media still works for connections. DMs are good. Having actual conversations in comments is good.

No. DMs are not e2ee so you’re allowing an advertising surveillance company to leverage private conversations with friends against you and your friends. It’s also available to federal police WITHOUT A WARRANT. They can data mine it, associate it with your email and phone number, and sell it off to data brokers.

Friends don’t let friends use surveillance platforms.

Delete your instagram and facebook accounts. Today. Refuse to be the honey in the corporate trap that results in your friends and loved ones being placed under surveillance.

Noaidi 6 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

TLDR: "I manage my alcoholism by only having two drinks a day."

Gualdrapo 6 hours ago | parent [-]

I wish "Hacker News front page but the titles are honest"[0] was a real thing. Your TLDR does it for this article.

[0] https://dosaygo-studio.github.io/hn-front-page-2035/news-hon...