| ▲ | xattt 9 hours ago |
| How do you deal with the small possibility that the offending person is unhinged (since they’ve already chosen to throw out societal mores out the window) and could physically hurt you? |
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| ▲ | Spooky23 8 hours ago | parent | next [-] |
| It’s a two-way street. I used to have to deal with unhinged people on the regular and one of the techniques that keep the peace and stay safe is to present an edge that gives the vibe that you may be more unhinged. My dad used to run housing projects, and my uncle was an assistant principal at one of the most violent schools in New York City. They were like Jedi masters of presence. They had stories that were absolutely insane. |
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| ▲ | getdoneist 2 hours ago | parent | next [-] | | It is pure game theory. An aggressive person expects no bad outcomes from his passive victim. If they get a signal that their own outcome may be not that good, even marginally, this very often changes their behaviour. That's why the advice to act submissively presented as "avoiding confrontation" is often the wrong advice. You are not seeking confrontation, but you should signal that you are ready for confrontation. Stops aggressive behaviour very often. | |
| ▲ | echelon_musk 5 hours ago | parent | prev [-] | | > They had stories that were absolutely insane. Don't leave us hanging. | | |
| ▲ | Spooky23 an hour ago | parent | next [-] | | lol, Sure! Here’s one that was one of the crazier ones that I remember from my dad. There were a bunch of people complaining about smells coming from an apartment. The dude was a little out there and some sort of religious practitioner. The workers were afraid of the guy, but he hadn’t really done anything except be weird and creepy. So he ended up going up with a few folks to check it out. The dude was capturing (many) wild animals and boiling their blood. So much so that it was condensating on the ceiling. The dude opened the door and came at them with a bloody machete. He was babbling something about his mother, and I guess as it was told dad just softly said something along the lines of “Your mom sent us and she is not happy with what is happening here, and I think you know that.” I guess the guy stopped in his tracks, dropped the machete and started bawling. He was a special guy and made a point to treat people fairly and with respect. They’d kick out drug dealers and people who’d terrorize neighbors with dogs and such. The local street dealers beat up some guy who tried to steal his car because being diligent in the buildings was keeping their families safe. He’d take me down as a kid in the summer to hang out and help out with kids programs. It was profoundly meaningful to me as I got to understand that we are all really the same. | |
| ▲ | johnisgood 2 hours ago | parent | prev [-] | | Yes, please give us some! |
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| ▲ | iammrpayments an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| Just lift weights, or say it’s just a prank I guess |
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| ▲ | charcircuit 5 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| It's illegal for them to hurt you. |
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| ▲ | bravetraveler 5 hours ago | parent [-] | | > It's illegal for them to hurt you. A well-known inhibitor for the unhinged. I wish I had the social awareness to troll [the right] people [well] in the moment like this. I've misjudged the dangerous ones enough, find that has blocked my words. | | |
| ▲ | charcircuit 5 hours ago | parent [-] | | It's the being in prison for years which truly inhibits them. | | |
| ▲ | evilduck 4 hours ago | parent | next [-] | | Is that why our prisons sit empty? | |
| ▲ | bravetraveler 5 hours ago | parent | prev [-] | | For the benefit of the next victim, maybe. The unhinged are famously forward-thinking. Hopefully you report their crime after the fact and it's met with a favorable result. All to say: "May the odds...", etc. |
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