The issue is how much of the helping is a trap.

Helping someone who refuses to deal with the underlying behaviors causing the real problem is just wasting energy better spent on other things.

Taken to an extreme, it’s being a martyr.

What you're describing perfectly describes our modern medical system. We define disease only by symptoms and as symptoms arise we paper over them with some combination of pills and surgery. There's never time made to understand the underlying cause, only how to patch up symptoms and send the patient home.