| ▲ | rspoerri 13 hours ago |
| My 3 year old watched TV for the first time for 2 minutes in her life (it was hard hiding it from her in an airplane on an overhead screen) and I can tell that TV is generally bad for kids at that age. |
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| ▲ | peteey 12 hours ago | parent | next [-] |
| Generally agreed. Though, Daniel Tiger and Paw Patrol should be judged differently. Paw Patrol is mindless and addictive. If you desperately need a distraction, PBS shows are less bad. A few moments of pacification may be worth not disturbing the other airline travelers. Daniel Tiger may be helpful to parents too. Interacting with children is not intuitive. Techniques from PBS shows have helped me. For example, singing to kids about trying food is move effective than a well reasoned monologue. |
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| ▲ | 01100011 5 hours ago | parent | next [-] | | Some commenters either: 1. Do not have children. 2. Have a strong support network. 3. Have their partner or professional handle most aspects of child raising and have a warped understanding of dealing with a precocious and active toddler. It's great that some folks have kids that like books and keep themselves busy. It's not so great that their parents think that is the reality most parents enjoy. | |
| ▲ | thesuitonym 9 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | Daniel Tiger was a godsend when my kids were younger. They loved it, and the little jingles helped us get through some of those tricky parenting situations. They're easy to remember, and the kids immediately understood. | |
| ▲ | AuryGlenz 12 hours ago | parent | prev [-] | | I'm not going to praise Paw Patrol as something on the level of Daniel Tiger or Bluey, but it's not completely mindless. It shows problem solving, teamwork, and encourages being helpful. | | |
| ▲ | cheald 12 hours ago | parent | next [-] | | It's not entirely devoid of value, but that doesn't make it a good idea. Junk food contains healthy ingredients, too. | | |
| ▲ | gffrd 11 hours ago | parent [-] | | My gripe with Paw Patrol is that everything is met with a cheery "sir, yes sir!" and then the show stops short of ever showing real challenge, friction, risk, failure, or loss. It's a missed opportunity. | | |
| ▲ | 01100011 5 hours ago | parent [-] | | Don't overthink it. Some of us were raised on Looney Tunes and MTV and somehow still figure out normal social interactions and do quite well in life. 40 years ago my parents had a close friend with a young and irresponsible wife who raised their child in front of a TV. At 4 years old the child could barely speak. My parents began babysitting and helping socialize her. Now she's a successful businessperson herself and is doing quite well in life. Studies on the impact of media on children are informative but don't lose sight of the fact that kids are adaptable and will overcome most kinds of sub-optimal upbringing. | | |
| ▲ | bawolff 4 hours ago | parent [-] | | After watching some looney tune episodes recently... maybe the world would be a better place if we weren't raised on it. | | |
| ▲ | ares623 2 hours ago | parent [-] | | Hah, that's a fair point. Same energy as "My parents hit me all the time and I turned out just fine!" |
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| ▲ | tempestn 2 hours ago | parent | prev [-] | | Agreed. There's a tier list that probably goes something like Bluey, Daniel Tiger, MLP, Paw Patrol, Pepa Pig,,,, Caillou. | | |
| ▲ | aidenn0 39 minutes ago | parent [-] | | I'm far from being a Caillou apologist, but putting it below, much less way below, Pepa Pig is rather harsh. |
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| ▲ | stavros 13 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| How can you tell? What's the thing that made you say "this is bad for her", and why is it not the same for you? |
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| ▲ | rspoerri 13 hours ago | parent | next [-] | | She was so focussed on it and started crying when we hid it after only a very short time. This is not normal a behaviour. This only happens with things that are very addictive (also for example sugar). I do understand that not everybody can do it like that, but if you can create such an environment it's much better for them (in my opinion). | | |
| ▲ | Hovertruck 13 hours ago | parent | next [-] | | My three year old would do the same thing if he was playing in his sandbox and I abruptly picked him up and carried him away from what he was doing though. In my experience managing transitions between activities is one of the most important things. If I let my him watch a video and I tell him "I'm going to turn off the TV when it ends", he just goes back to playing with his toys when it goes off. Don't get me wrong, I think screen time can definitely be a problem. I just think it mostly comes down to whether or not the screen time is at the expense of something else more constructive. | | |
| ▲ | madaxe_again 6 hours ago | parent [-] | | Absolutely this. I think a problem arises when parents install their kid in front of the TV and use it as a childminder. Mine just turned 3. She watches YouTube kids - navigates the TV just fine and makes her own choices. She’s also a dab hand at platformer games - I didn’t think I’d have someone to play Mario with just her. But - and it’s a big but - she spends 95% of her time doing something else, be it exploring outdoors, playing with duplo/lego, art, looking at books, telling stories with her toys, whatever. For her, TV and games are just another thing to do, and she picks them up and puts them down like anything else. The other problem arises at the other end of the spectrum. For me, TV was verboten until I was at least 8 or 9 years old - and when I was finally allowed that forbidden fruit I gorged myself. |
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| ▲ | wffurr 12 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | >> started crying when we hid it after only a very short time I'd cry too if you showed me a bright colorful shiny fun new thing and then took it away after only two minutes. Part of what you're seeing is the novelty. There does seem to be something about screens, but it's possible to have healthy screen habits as a young child. My 3 year old enjoyed a 25-minute episode of Wild Kratts on PBS Kids on our TV while we finished packing up for a trip to the aquarium today. No problems turning it off once the episode was over and it was time to go. It's not his first time watching TV though. | |
| ▲ | ncallaway 12 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | My approach to these kinds of things is different: these are really important opportunities to teach moderation and to teach the social skills of learning to have fun things in moderation. I think it's quite important to introduce these addictive things into their lives, in a way that teach how to enjoy them carefully and in small chunks. | |
| ▲ | stavros 13 hours ago | parent | prev [-] | | Interesting, thanks for elaborating. | | |
| ▲ | rspoerri 12 hours ago | parent [-] | | Understanding of what is happening is often very limited. When I read books or talk to her, I sometimes use words that are unknown to her, she only started asking for the meaning of them recently (she just turned 3). So she will probably only understand 20%-30% even when she understands conversations quite well at home. She is still missing cultural context. She is only starting to understand the difference between a living and a stuffed animal. In an animation movie somebody might hit somebody else, which appears funny to an adult. A child might just take this as normal behaviour and repeats it the next time she sees somebody and doesn't understand why it's not funny. Understanding the real world is difficult enough for her. | | |
| ▲ | stavros 12 hours ago | parent [-] | | But that's an issue with the content, not the medium, right? There will be shows geared exactly towards kid that age that teach them the right lessons. | | |
| ▲ | rspoerri 5 hours ago | parent [-] | | I allow her to watch me work (mostly text documents), and we often search for images of an animal or object that she wants printed (today we searched for stars). Also, she can video-phone the grandparents, which is not that addictive from my experience. My screensaver (animated colours) is problematic. Watching a video of herself or the grandparents on the smartphone can be problematic as well, but at least they are typically only a few seconds. So yes, it's a thing of the medium. But most media for kids are colourful, highly animated, childlike characters and voices. Optimized to catch their attention for a long time. Also, the media for kids are barely matching the level of the kids state of knowledge. I use words she understands describing things she asks me about, a TV show never does that. |
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| ▲ | asielen 12 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I won't argue that it is a universal truth but it has played out the same for my kids and my friends groups kids. They treat it like a drug and lose all emotional regulation. I don't believe all screen time is bad, but it is something you have to teach them to regulate and 3 year olds and younger are just bad at regulating emotion in general. Teaching them to do this is just part of parenting. One of the most important things we can teach our kids is that it is okay to be bored. In fact it is great to be bored sometimes. On the other hand, being a parent is hard and keeping your sanity is important in order to be a good parent. So if it helps you be a better parent all other times, it could be worth it. The issue is when screens are used to in place of parenting. Parents using it as a way to fuel their own screen addiction. On the other hand, for me airplanes are a special case and all rules go out the window to help keep the kid calm. | | |
| ▲ | mock-possum 12 hours ago | parent [-] | | Hard disagree with ‘great to be bored’ - being bored is one of the worst possible feelings, that you’re wasting your time doing nothing when there is almost certainly something you would rather be doing. As a child I used to hate the feeling of boredom, knowing that I could be doing something I wanted to do. As an adult I am hardly ever bored, and it’s a strict improvement, never have I ever found myself wishing I could just go back to being bored. Boredom is such a negative emotion that learning to manage it effectively becomes an essential life skill. Learning to set yourself up for success / be prepared required forethought to anticipate the possibility of boredom and come prepared to deal with it. Acting out on boredom is childish, learning to keep yourself occupied so you don’t become bored is mature. | | |
| ▲ | GJim 12 hours ago | parent [-] | | > Hard disagree with ‘great to be bored’ - being bored is one of the worst possible feelings, that you’re wasting your time doing nothing when there is almost certainly something you would rather be doing. You <---> The point Being bored is what inspires a kid to daydream for themselves and/or get off their arse and try something new. Being constantly "entertained" by a TV or fondle slab is an anathema to creativity and independent thought. For children and adults. | | |
| ▲ | senordevnyc 10 hours ago | parent [-] | | So really, boredom itself isn't what's good, it's actually used as something uncomfortable that encourages kids (or adults) to go find something interesting to alleviate the discomfort. For the record, I've also told my daughter that "boredom is good for her", but this is clarifying my thinking on it. |
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| ▲ | loandbehold 13 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | There was a time people used think the same about books. | | |
| ▲ | efskap 7 hours ago | parent | next [-] | | That's still consumption of images rather than participation in reality. Kids can absolutely read in excess as a form of escapism. Books are easier than dealing with real life when someone else does the thinking and problem solving for you. Certainly great for learning in moderation but you won't learn interpersonal skills or how to ride a bike just by reading about them. | |
| ▲ | pessimizer 12 hours ago | parent | prev [-] | | I don't think there was. But even if so, there was a time people used to think the same about drinking antifreeze, too. | | |
| ▲ | loandbehold 12 hours ago | parent | next [-] | | There absolutely was. "reading addiction" was a medical diagnosis in 18th/19th century Europe. And if you read some of the essays about negative effects of reading from this time, it's pretty striking how similar it is to modern views on TV. There was even a German term of that time "Leseseuche" which literally translates as "reading plague". | |
| ▲ | Jblx2 8 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | - Propylene Glycol -- Antifreeze that is also used as a food additive. - Ethylene Glycol -- Antifreeze that is toxic. https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/propylene-glycol#TOC_TI... | |
| ▲ | pvab3 8 hours ago | parent | prev [-] | | you ought to read some of the early attacks on the printing press. It sounds like your grandpa complaining about TikTok |
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| ▲ | sigmonsays 13 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | their vision is still developing and staring at a screen is not good for eye development. it removes stimulation and interaction with the environment and replaces it with sedentary and no physical interactions. While the exact reasons are not common knowledge, knowing TV is bad for toddlers is. | | |
| ▲ | ncallaway 12 hours ago | parent | next [-] | | > their vision is still developing and staring at a screen is not good for eye development. Is that true? The American Association of Pediatrics doesn't list that as a concern on their page "Health Effects Of Young Kids Being On Screens Too Long" (which is focused on children aged 2-11). Do you have a source I could review for that claim? https://www.aap.org/en/patient-care/media-and-children/cente... --- (The AAP page about media recommendations for 0-2 also doesn't say anything about eye-development, but _does_ recommend entirely against screen-time for that age-group except for video conversations with people) https://www.aap.org/en/patient-care/media-and-children/cente... | |
| ▲ | lurking_swe 7 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | to clarify, too much “near work” for the eyes is a risk for myopia. That includes reading books all day. My point is, watching an educational tv program like PBS for 30 minutes in the evening will not be the cause for your child wearing glasses. The biggest predictor of good vision from the scientific studies is lots of outdoor time. This is most important from ages 6 to 11. https://www.myopiaprofile.com/articles/how-outdoor-time-infl... | |
| ▲ | bethekidyouwant 12 hours ago | parent | prev [-] | | It’s bro-science all the way down. What if your environment is a boring room? |
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| ▲ | red-iron-pine 7 hours ago | parent | prev [-] | | not that guy, but it would cause our kids to completely emotionally deregulate, and become fixated on the TV for a while. and most TV is not great for people. there is a reason depression and anxiety correlate with TV time |
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| ▲ | pizzafeelsright 12 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| My kids never had tablets or individual access to screens and yet we have tv and movies and now video games as the children age. The current rule is video games require 1 minute of exercise for one minute of usage. This is a self regulating time limit that has worked well. |
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| ▲ | cheald 12 hours ago | parent [-] | | Oh, I like this a lot. My kids are quite physically active, but they do love to binge video games, too. I like the idea of letting them "buy" more leisure time at their own discretion through self-disciplined work. |
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| ▲ | scelerat 8 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-] |
| similar observation here, with a 2.33-year old. In small doses we've exposed him to videos[1], never unsupervised, never as a parental substitute, but there are a class of them (which happen to be the lowest-effort, highest-contrast, most insipidly soundtracked CGI dreck I can possibly imagine) which are absolute baby crack. He watched some a few months ago and now he can't get them out of his head. It has gotten to the point where we are simply at a hard "no" about any videos because it always devolves into an inconsolable tantrum tearfully begging for more video crack. [1] kid loves trucks and garbage trucks and trains, and so for a while it was fun to pull up a video of real life trucks and trains and watch them and talk about them. We'd read a book about trucks. He'd point and say, "what's that do," and I'd explain, then say, "wait! I can show you." Which was fun, until it became triggering. |
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| ▲ | red-iron-pine 7 hours ago | parent [-] | | we had generally the same experience but with disney princesses was sort of a crutch for a sick kid or when things were slammed (e.g. kid 2 or 3 was also sick or we were otherwise busy) but we had to limit them heavily. we also made the mistake of playing her the soundtracks, which ended up with listening to Aladdin or Frozen on repeat. All told not bad music compared to the drek they're putting out on YT now... |
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| ▲ | mherkender 7 hours ago | parent | prev [-] |
| I find the type of show makes a big difference, finding something thoughtful is important (and hard). We also like to set a time limit, usually 1-2 episodes to make the transition easy. Also, no tablets, just commercial-free TV so we can watch with them. They re-enact fun/positive stuff from shows and don't get locked in or desperate for TV. Seems to work for us. |
