It's funny you should ask this. When I started out, 30 years ago, here were the answers you'd get from most people:

> Am I supposed to want to code all the time?

Yes.

> When can I pursue hobbies,

Your hobby should be coding fun apps for yourself

> a social life, etc.

You social life should be hanging out with other engineers talking about engineering things.

And the most successful people I know basically did exactly that.

I'm not saying y'all should be doing that now, I'm just saying, that is in fact how it used to be.