I feel like the best lesson in here wasn’t numbered, but in the opening statement:

> the longer I’ve stayed, the more I’ve realized that the engineers who thrive aren’t necessarily the best programmers - they’re the ones who’ve figured out how to navigate everything around the code: the people, the politics, the alignment, the ambiguity.

I have been banging on about this for _years_. I’ve seen engineers much smarter than me and who write much better code fall afoul of this too. Being personable and easy going and insightful for one hour in a meeting can do more for your reputation within a company than a month of burning yourself out completing more tickets than anybody else. I really wish more people understood this.

At the end of the day, a manager or a project director who _wants_ you to join a meeting just because you’re a joy to be around and you may have some insight, shows you’re more valued than the best coder on the team if they’re a pain to bring into a meeting because they’re hard to talk to.

I manager that invites people in meeting based on how obedient they are, is a bad manager. Multiplied by the number of reports. Fix that.