I am going to file this line

> If you win every debate, you’re probably accumulating silent resistance.

Sun Tsu said you have to either give your opponent an out or completely destroy them. I’ve always said that you can only skin a sheep once but can shear them over and over. Or to be more blunt, it’s better to be effective than right.

It’s about keeping the bigger/long term goals in mind. That means relationships and being an asshole.

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sseagull 3 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

This is one of the Five Dysfunctions of a Team (fear of conflict, caused by absence of trust).

Highly recommend the book.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Five_Dysfunctions_of_a_Tea...

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ronbenton 3 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

That one makes me uncomfortable, which is a bad sign...

	▲	edonhametsu 3 days ago \| parent [-]
		I'd say it's a good sign – at least now you're aware it might be happening. A worse sign would be thinking you're definitely not that sort of personality; you'd be accruing silent resentment from both being loud _and_ clueless.

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sublang 3 days ago | parent | prev [-]

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