Thank you for taking the time to reply - thank you!

I have question on a more personal front - please feel no obligation to reply.

What impact has having such clear visibility into your accounts had on your relationship with your wife? It feels like it would be a great catalyst for communication, trust and building things if shared finances was a key part of the relationship.

I think this part was the most inspirational - it takes a lot of courage to be that open about finances, even with partners, perhaps especially with partners.

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lalitmaganti 9 hours ago | parent [-]

Happy to answer :)

> What impact has having such clear visibility into your accounts had on your relationship with your wife?

That's a great question. Thankfully when it comes to finances we are very aligned in our habits and goals. So we find it very natural to be open because we know that we're both going to be aligned.

Where we differ heavily though is how much we are willing to really getting onto the nitty gritty details. She really likes knowing how our money works but she also has no interest in spending so much time and effort on it.

But that works great because I love this stuff. So every month or so we have a "finances session" where I sit down with her, take her through the books and make sure we're both happy with everything.

Obviously this very much depends on the couple whether this works but it has for us so far!

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phil-martin 8 hours ago | parent [-]

I love that, thank you for sharing.

Would you consider a follow up blog post about how you structure and approach your monthly finance sessions? I understand that it would be well outside of your topics of software engineering, performance and open-source, but I find that the human component of our industry is often missing. An insight into how someone has successfully navigated that would be a wonderful read.

	▲	lalitmaganti 7 hours ago \| parent [-]
		Given the comments on this post and the other Beancount one in the frontpage, I definitely think there's enough I want to say for at least one if not two followups. Stay tuned!