Agree with you and your responses in the threads elsewhere.

There seems to be a point of contention amongst the terminology for anybody with autism. Someone with autism might not see themselves as having a disorder. But there are certainly very high needs autistic individuals. Apply a whole spectrum of people as being "developed wrong" and you can start to see ableist language.

I appreciated your metaphor about cars on a highway -- and that there's something wrong with the highway, not the car. I thought it was really simple and clear and I think I got the point you were trying to make. And even if it the highway isn't wrong (it was made for cars after all), we should at least extend it to support many types of transportation.