It also reminds me that systems can’t fix situations like this. The system of “care,” as the story alludes to the autistic person experiencing in their youth, often looks a lot more like warehousing the people on the margins of society, often in unpleasant (and almost always in institutional) conditions. Some kinds of humanity can only ever happen person-to-person, and it’s a great treasure for everyone involved to encounter such an opportunity and choose to take it up.

That’s an easy cop-out and disagree as an European with stronger social nets. But yes this is still a heart warming story.

I think that the _current_ systems are incapable of care, but that doesn’t mean systems can’t be in general.

I often think that they’re held back in large part by people who say “we can’t” rather than building a solution

You see far more horrific cases in the current US system where minors are cared for by members of the general public at their homes. This self selects for both ends of the spectrum people who want to do good and very bad actors.

That’s the core issue so often ignored, we need systems to deal with people at their best and their worst.

"Incentivizing" doesn't really fix it either, as people take avantage of the incentives. You do have to make it possible for the people who do care to be able to, though.

Yep, we are part of the system.