I highly recommend setting up a kodi combo: real-debrid/fen/seren/coco scrapers/tmdb helper with your trakt account/arctic fuse 2 (netflix like skin). It is a complete "stream everything" netflix interface.

It takes quite a while to understand how to set everything up and needs tons of customization (which is also a positive), but reddit is your friend. For example this is a good guide (although bit dated, some info may be older but generally it still fits https://www.reddit.com/r/Addons4Kodi/comments/zzfdtb/allincl... )

I know people also use *arr stack and jellyfin to setup their own library but my problem is that i never /know/ what to watch. With this setup, i just turn it on, get to browse customized/recommended and random lists like in netflix and it streams directly via real-debrid or premiumize

Oh; if you decide to have a dedicated raspberry pi for this thing (so you can use it with tv easilly), use a regular raspbian os or something, do NOT use libreelec. It is trying to be heavily customized, but in the end is just worse, buggy, bad wifi support, slow releases from small team, and unability to manually update packages

> I know people also use *arr stack ... i never /know/ what to watch

For discoverability you should check overseerr, which is pluggable via API to sonarr and radarr