It must be absolutely exhausting to be so pissed off about every little thing like this.

It can certainly be. But I try to just focus on alternatives.

But it really pisses me off when I spend money on something, and then after that it enshitifies (ie Philips/Signify Hue).

Ah well, being annoyed by and pissed off at iOS just makes me spend less time on the thing, so that's good.