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starsky411 4 days ago

This remind me of that saying - no original version but it was like: tough times makes tough people, soft times makes soft people. And I hope it’s not true. But indeed the more choices you have in life, the harder it gets to chose the right thing to do.

actionfromafar 4 days ago | parent | next [-]

In aggregate, tough times make people malnourished, alcoholic, traumatized, lower IQ, apathetic, aggressive. In no particular order or combination.

kakacik 4 days ago | parent [-]

Look at US during late 40s / 50s. Do you think your definition is valid for those times en masse? (apart from the fact that most of those markers slowly improved over time due to overall progress).

Same would be valid for western Europe, eastern part got fucked up by soviets pushing communism and related terror left and right.

girvo 3 days ago | parent [-]

> Do you think your definition is valid for those times en masse

Lead poisoning leading to lower IQs, alcoholism was definitely rampant (though less stigmatised at the time), traumatised from the war, aggressiveness towards spouses and each other (see: war trauma)

Yes, it absolutely was.

dredmorbius 4 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

The original quote is from G. Michael Hopf, in Those Who Remain (2016):

"Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. And, weak men create hard times."

<https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/8751435-hard-times-create-s...>

It reflects many former cyclical-view-of-history / social cycle theory concepts, dating back literally thousands of years:

<https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_cycle_theory>

gherkinnn 4 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Why can't this meme die? It is so obviously rubbish. Good times allow for a people to divert more energy to specialisation and growth and might and art and then displace the "hardened" people.

Aeglaecia 4 days ago | parent [-]

all living creatures are selfish to the core and will always optimize to minimize effort and maximize personal reward , therefore existing in a soft gentle system will result in acclimatization to a soft gentle system ... this universe is hostile impersonal harsh brutal and altogether basically not a place that anybody could ever be prepared for after having congealed in an insular bubble like the global west ... it is enjoyable seeing everyone here utterly in denial about this ... reminds me of militant atheists lambasting religion and then doubling down when i suggest that maybe healthy community gathering and values is more important than whether or not god is real ...

actionfromafar 4 days ago | parent [-]

Yep. That's why bees and ants simply don't exist.

Aeglaecia 3 days ago | parent [-]

zooming out a bit , humans look a lot like ants

meindnoch 4 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

This is a famous quote by the renowned warrior-philosopher Joe Rogan.

dredmorbius 4 days ago | parent [-]

Predates him significantly, I suspect: <https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=46315310>.

komali2 4 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Good times make soft men, bad times make hard men. I never quite understood what the implication was and I always questioned the historical accuracy because no part of history is so easily defined as "good time" or "bad time."

everdrive 4 days ago | parent | next [-]

Like basically every truism, it's a broad generalization and when you pick it apart you find all sorts of cases where the terms are loosely defined or else the truism just doesn't fit. There is at least something to be said here, and this is something of an adaptation of Ibn Khaldun's work on the concept of "asabiyyah" in the Muqaddima. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ibn_Khaldun#al-Muqaddima_and_t...

From the Wikipedia summary:

"The work is based around Ibn Khaldun's central concept of aṣabiyyah, translated as "group cohesiveness" or "solidarity".[41] This social cohesion arises spontaneously in tribes and other small kinship groups; it can be intensified and enlarged by a religious ideology. Ibn Khaldun's analysis looks at how this cohesion carries groups to power but contains within itself the seeds – psychological, sociological, economic, political – of the group's downfall, to be replaced by a new group, dynasty or empire bound by a stronger (or at least younger and more vigorous) cohesion."

A4ET8a8uTh0_v2 4 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I think the quote itself indicates something of pre-internet outlook, where one's world was more localized. From that perspective, "good time"/"bad time" is more tied to one's geography ( and by extention, tribe ) more than anything else. If true, then "bad time" is simply war, famine, pestilence from more common set of maladies. And if the outlook is more local, the saying does start to make a lot of sense, because our constraints define how we approach life in general. Not to search very far, depression crash made a generation of Americans very wary of trading stocks.

wongarsu 4 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

There's the other half, which is often only implied: soft men make bad times, hard men make good times. It's supposed to be cyclical: good times -> soft people -> bad times -> hard people -> good times. Usually directly followed by "back in my days things were tough, but kids these days are just weak"

I'm not sure how it's supposed to work out. The US is arguably currently under the control of the baby boomers, who were brought up in good times. And those good times were brought on by the two generations before them who were brought up in tough times (two world wars, depression, etc)? But that feels tenuous at best

gherkinnn 4 days ago | parent | next [-]

If there was any truth do this then Russia (arguably a "hard place" for most of its history) would be brimming with strong men (it is always "men" in these discussions) who then create which good times exactly?

integralid 4 days ago | parent [-]

>it is always "men" in these discussions

This obviously means "human" in this context.

But of course this saying is just a meme at best, it doesn't work like that in reality. In fact, good times make strong men just like good childhood makes strong adults.

komali2 4 days ago | parent | next [-]

> This obviously means "human" in this context.

I disagree, people who say this often are "great men of history" types that genuinely ascribe much of the significant events in human history to the activities of men alone.

gherkinnn 4 days ago | parent | prev [-]

> This obviously means "human" in this context.

In the abstract yes. In practice I mainly hear this meme spouted by trad-masculine-sparta types.

3D30497420 4 days ago | parent | prev [-]

> But that feels tenuous at best

Yeah, I rather doubt that the direction of history can so easily be summarized by good/bad times and soft/hard men.

ramon156 4 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

To understand is to suffer

louthy 4 days ago | parent | prev [-]

It isn't about a particular time in history, it's about the individual. An individual who suffers hardships often has to endure to overcome said hardships. That makes the individual more resilient and more able to deal with future hardships.

I think the phrasing can come across as a bit macho, which I don't think is the point. It's about resilience.

arethuza 4 days ago | parent [-]

Overcoming hardships may leave people more resilient, but it may also leave them physical and/or psychological wrecks.

louthy 4 days ago | parent [-]

As someone who has had some serious hardship and is certainly more resilient because of it, I can also confirm the mental scarring that comes as ‘part of the package’.

I think to an extent the mental impact of it is a necessary evil. The future resilience manifests as a drive to not find yourself in the same (or an equally difficult) position again — because it’s so emotionally devastating — so you fight harder to not allow it to happen again. This makes a person more driven in general.

Another aspect is that you’ve seen how ‘deep’ an emotion can be (traumatic) and so more ‘everyday’ emotional events can seem much more trivial, making them easier to deal with. Although, it can sometimes leave the person seeming ‘cold’ emotionally. One thing I found was I was less tolerant of people without the level of resilience I had, which I had to work on.

Of course, there will be some people that can’t endure the initial hardship and don’t develop that resilience. My impression is that most people do endure and find a way to come out of the other side, like a basic survival instinct, although that’s purely anecdotal.

komali2 4 days ago | parent | next [-]

But how do you account for things like cycles of violence and PTSD? I have veteran friends that, sure, could handle being shot at better than me, but on the other hand I can go to a fireworks show without worrying about having a public breakdown. Or I got friends that suffer for lack of the structure the military provided and just veg out now, picking fights at the bar for a little excitement.

Hell I guess you can describe them as "hard men" but I wouldn't want to be that way and it doesn't seem to make you more successful in modern society.

louthy 4 days ago | parent [-]

People with mental health issues need help and support. Just because there’s a pithy saying, doesn’t make it universally beneficial to have suffered hardship.

Not sure what else you’re expecting? I’m not advocating imposed hardship, just trying to give some context for why it can often lead to a more robust and driven person. It’s clearly not universally true.

I imagine there are lots of veterans that are able to cope and have become more robust. But there will always be mental health aftershocks, because that’s why it was a hardship in the first place.

watwut a day ago | parent [-]

The point is, hardship did not made them stronger. It made them weaker.

Abused kids domt grow stronger either. They grow weaker and less capable of navigating life too.

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UncleMeat 4 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I swear, people will do anything to make claims about history except speak with actual historians.

hshdhdhj4444 4 days ago | parent | prev [-]

How did we end up in a world where the stupidest memes are considered insightful.

berdario 4 days ago | parent [-]

Not only stupid, but also a nazi meme...

Besides the appeal of "though people", the idea that we're also in a cycle, of which the current phase is the worst one, is also basically the Kali Yuga concept, popularised by openly nazi figures like Julius Evola and Savitri Devi

If people are unhappy about their current society, they'd be better off learning about the economic causes, rather than esoteric memes.

rkomorn 4 days ago | parent [-]

I think, on top of the cycle aspect, there's also an aspect that the people who trot out that quote think they're part of the few "hard men" of current times. Eg They (and their ideas) are the solution to our problems.