> Wireguard and remove Apple and Tailscale from the equation entirely

I agree you could send them a preconfigured pi, but can we stop pretending talescale is just wireguard - there is a lot of convenience in the NAT traversal that you otherwise need router config and/or a publically routable server to achieve.

> but can we stop pretending talescale is just wireguard

That's precisely the issue. It introduces additional centralized dependencies and closed source components.