This 1000x over! On Android you have this and you can tune how long a long-press is. It's amazing and should be an advanced feature on iOS.

I wish Apple would get over itself and expose settings for all-the-things, like how you can write default finder settings on macOS using the terminal.

Yes! I miss it very much. When I was on Android, I used to have it set to 100ms. I used to very quickly send well-punctuated text. On iPhones, it seems like the digitizer has 100ms of hysteresis built in.

now i just Lettuce my iPhone sden whatever it wants with no punctuation its not real good

Unfortunately, MacOS doesn't have settings (which I am told it had) for animation scales, like Androids have. The interface is sloooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooow.