Let’s also shed light on what behaviors neurotypicals usually have a problem with that they cast as negatives in high-functioning autists:

1) Not being mindful of hierarchy

2) Not being mindful of socially determined rules, that is rules which are not codified in any official language of conduct

3) Not wanting to socialize, or wanting to socialize differently

4) Trouble with emotional regulation, possibly due to social issues

Tell me, which of these points, and there are many more, point to this being an individual’s problem?

For high-functioning autists, the problem is other people.

People need to realize that they’re not great to deal with on average, and if someone chooses to not engage with you, don’t take that as an insult. Maybe you’re all better off not interacting with each other, but that doesn’t imply causing someone financial, emotional or physical harm just because they’re autistic.

Society both explicitly and implicitly punishes high-functioning autism.