> My stepson: Just a teenager navigating one of the more emotionally turbulent times while being noticeably different. He has fine motor issues and some social deficiencies. The best I could describe it is that he's emotionally a few years behind where other kids his age would be. He has few accommodations, mostly extra time and the ability to leave a situation that is overstimulating him. He's odd, probably always be a bit odd. May never be able to tie his shoes, but with work, he should be able to navigate society as a functioning adult one day.

As someone with some similar issues, a) my motor skills are fine, b) the focus on tieing shoes is so frustrating; velcro shoes are everywhere, you can even get Dr. Martens high boots with zippers so you don't have to tie them... like sure, try laces and if it works great... but just provide the accommodation and move on. :P

On the plus side, everyone said playing video games would help my fine motor skills, so I got an out to play a lot of video games, which I enjoyed. :D And my atrocious penmanship hasn't been an issue in adult life, because nobody writes anything anymore (and have you seen the penmanship for kids that were in 2-4th grade during covid ... it's worse than mine!)