As a small user I find it hard to find a use case where I’d want a bsd for some reason. I even installed ghostbsd in a vm to try it but it seemed very similar to linux so I didn’t understand what’s the upside?

A small thing, but the mechanistic approach to bundling packages into bigger meta state, is (in my personal opinion) better than the somewhat ad-hoc approach to both writing and including things in an apt/dpkg.

If the product is python, thats what it is. there is no python-additonal-headers or python-dev or bundle-which-happens-to-be-python-but-how-would-you-know.

There is python, and there are meta-ports which explicitly 'call' the python port.

The most notable example being X11. Its sub-parts are all very rational. fonts are fonts. libs are libs. drm is drm. drivers are drivers.

(yes, there is the port/pkg confusion. thats a bit annoying.)

ZFS and jails are two things FreeBSD does very well

You don't have to reinstall with every software upgrade. Reliability and long term uptime are the norm.

1990s nostalgia.