As I'm in my 60s, I have elderly friends and relatives who have spent time in hospitals and rehab facilities. The patient needs to have an advocate who is informed of their situation and is present when the doctor makes their brief daily or weekly visit. I've seen decisions made, that contradicted the information in their "chart" such as exercise sessions for a person with a documented broken spine, treated as inviolable by the nurses and other clinical staff. Only the doctor can change the facts of the case.

What I suggest is that if you have a friend or relative visiting you, they should bring a "flip chart" -- the old fashioned 2 x 3 foot pad of paper -- and write down in huge letters the most important details of the case. Ask the doctor to help you fill it in.