Weird stuff, you are just talking to a 5 year younger friend about hair brushing being pleasant and now you needr to apologize to the hair brusher?

> She demanded that I apologize to the women for sexualizing them.

This doesn't work that well in real life. Let me sketch a scenario:

Oh eh, hi, eh, sorry, I have to admit than when you were brushing my hair, I was sexualizing you.

You can't make it much better, perhaps write a formal letter and focus on the hairbrush:

Three weeks ago, I was in your excellent shop. My hair never has been nicer. During the hair brushing, I got the feeling I felt a bit more for the hairbrush than I fell about you, I hope you can forgive me.

That gives a nice feeling about what was first a fairly normal human interaction.

It sounds hot though, good tip. But I got a humiliation kink, oh noes! How to resolve then? It is a catch-22 now. Need to do silly apologize, apologies are sexual, need to apologize for sexual feelings due to silly apologies. Haha, how do I get there?

Makes me glad I have aphantasia, because "undressing someone with my eyes" is a metaphorical expression for me, and I don't have to worry about thinking something I might then need to apologize for. Now for the people who can visualize things in their mind, it's probably quite a lot more literal...