Sounds like you cannot bear making yourself the sole person responsible and need to involve more people in your decision making cope. Not sure if that’s healthy tbh, just sounds like you don’t like shouldering blame for responsibilities.

So if you were childlike before in your thinking I guess at least you’re a college student now.

The parent comment was talking about having trauma. They were probably once in a position where they very much weren’t healthy, and through the gradual gaining of awareness came to the realization that they needed help.

If I had a broken leg, it’s obviously not going to help trying to fix it myself. Why would it be a stretch that unhealthy thought patterns, which by their nature are self reinforcing, not require an external influence to help break the feedback loops?