at some point when i was 32 it hit me: "ive accepted the idea of giving up perceived freedom and having a kid" (adoption or old-fashioned-style)

my spouse is 3 years younger and when i told her my conclusion i added that i feel no urgency, only that something shifted

this was 3 years ago and now my spouse is 32 and said the same thing to me, someone who previously had NEVER wanted to go through the process of childbirth[0]. had to remind her that we had the same convo when i was her age

incredible that shift has been pinned down with research

[0] 10 years of big hospital nursing can be like "scared straight" for pregnancy