Just a heads up, the female brain changes are reverted 1 year after giving birth (that's what the health professionals told us). They also discovered that the male brain changes too.

I felt way more empathetic during the first year my son and my daughter were born, but I feel like I lost that part of me. I kinda miss it

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vorpalhex 7 hours ago | parent [-]

Just practice it.

I realize that sounds silly but it really does work. A lot of emotional behavior is muscle like and setting aside intentional practice will lead to longterm change.

1. Set a trigger to engage in the practice like "When I hang out with my kids immediately after the work day"

2. Do the practice. Try to be empathetic to your kids small daily issues. At first, like all newish things this will feel silly but over time it will feel natural.

Obviously try to be genuine. If your kids plight of someone snatching their favorite toy or whatever doesn't move you, don't force it. Just try to practice visualizing yourself in their place. Don't go "fake empathetic kid tone".

	▲	Fire-Dragon-DoL 5 hours ago \| parent [-]
		I agree, it makes sense. The thing that changed is my initial emotion: frustration because of expectations, then I think about it and realize my expectation is wrong and usually apologize. While during their first year, my initial reaction was usually the correct one. I felt I could "read" them better.