> “He wasted his entire life, my mom said to me, the evening we found the love letters. His entire life, and mine as well.”

What a burden of expectations to lay on both yourself & your own family.

I’m glad the author was able to put those aside & live her own life more authentically than her father did.

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arpinum 10 minutes ago | parent [-]

The author may be unduly harsh on her father. He got to be publicly married and have a private gay life. He didn't have to live with his wife much. He liked the idea of having a daughter.

Given the hand he was dealt it's a pretty good outcome for himself. Grossly selfish, but not a waste for himself.

	▲	ivape 2 minutes ago \| parent [-]
		Some don’t fully understand that the universe does not owe you any camaraderie in your affairs. Not even a small mouse to talk to. Many live the same paths we live entirely alone. While life took from her a real romance, it did not take from her partnership.