You're not wrong.

It's fashionable to dunk on OOP (because most examples - like employee being a subtype of person - are stupid) and ORM (because yes you need to hand write queries of any real complexity).

But there's a reason large projects rely on them. When used properly they are powerful, useful, time-saving and complexity-reducing abstractions.

Code hipsters always push new techniques and disparage the old ones, then eventually realise that there were good reasons for the status quo.

Case in point the arrival of NoSQL and wild uptake of MongoDB and the like last decade. Today people have re-learned the value of the R part of RDBMS.

Large projects benefited from OOP because large projects need abstraction and modularization. But OOP is not unique in providing those benefits, and it includes some constructs (e.g. inheritance, strictly-dynamic polymorphism) that have proven harmful over time.