| ▲ | rhubarbtree 11 hours ago | |
I recently encountered someone who spoke like this and I researched what might be the issue. I came across narcissism. The idea that you’re smarter than everyone else. Comes from a grandiose sense of self importance. But the truth is most people are smarter than you in some ways and less smart in others, but you’re unable to see it because you’re in this black and white mode where preserving your ego relies on you being the smart guy amongst the idiots. It’s very common in tech to see this. Maybe because we were all exceptional at maths when we were young and got the idea that meant we were super smart and this compensated for our nerdiness. I worked with a bunch of physicists and every single one of them was smarter than me at maths and physics, I wasn’t even close. But they sometimes talked about politics and current affairs, which I’m very well read in. I didn’t say anything, but I was shocked at how little they knew and how overconfident they were. None of those folks were narcissists, thankfully they were lovely people, but for sure it highlighted how poor people were at judging their own expertise in an area. It’s so easy to dismiss people, criticising is easy, and so hard to see just how stupid you can be yourself. | ||
| ▲ | alphabettsy 10 hours ago | parent | next [-] | |
Are you sure you’re not conflating knowledge with intelligence? | ||
| ▲ | LouisSayers 2 hours ago | parent | prev [-] | |
Perhaps there are some people like you say that are grandiose narcissists and ALSO some people that are genuinely smarter than most others in the room and can see the obvious through the fog. I think the frustration they're experiencing is more likely to do with a lack of control over their environment (including the lack of ability to control others). | ||