> Another big issue imo to me feels like ssh, X servers ssh forwarding/vnc just works, Yet I haven't really found ways to do things like VNC on wayland on a server or something as easy (or even possible?) on wayland as compared to x servers,

Yes, this should be workable, assuming your compositor is compatible (a meaningful caveat, but not insurmountable):

* To forward one application like `ssh -X`, you want waypipe

* For VNC, it really depends on your compositor, but wayvnc works for many of them. (And GNOME does their own thing and I think KDE has their own official option)