A little bit of overthinking in there, no? I mean this is kind of stressing me out that I’ve not been doing this properly.

It feels like the person writing this is constently rating the quality of his/her parties, like she’s being judged. Perhaps it’s a NY thing. The ‘flake rate’ also feels very New York-y

My experience is that some parties will be good others won’t, and you can’t really know why. General mood can’t be steered. It’s ok.