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Animats 4 days ago

(This is going to upset some people.)

A successful escort who is into statistical data analysis and market research talks about the details of organizing an orgy.[1]

Aella's thing is to ask questions that lead to "what do women really want", and go from there to design events. She has about 800,000 raw survey responses, so there's enough data to look for patterns. The answers will upset some people. The conventional wisdom appears to be way out from where the data leads.

[1] https://aella.substack.com/p/a-girls-guide-to-a-data-driven-...

titanomachy 4 days ago | parent | next [-]

I think this talk was interesting. You may be getting downvoted since people don’t want to watch the whole video to get the “answer” you alluded to, so I’ll summarize briefly:

Aella notes that orgies have recently been very focused on maximizing consent and safety, and as a result people have very little actual sex at the parties and are dissatisfied. She notes that the kind of women who attend orgies are disproportionately into submissive power dynamics and somewhat rough sex, so she tried creating a type of orgy where blanket consent is given up-front, men outnumber women, and everyone is vetted for attractiveness (and presumably other traits, which she does not specify). This apparently leads to parties where the men aggressively initiate sex with many women, and everyone is very satisfied with the outcome. The parties have strict rules, such as absolutely and immediately respecting the safe word.

bradlys 3 days ago | parent | next [-]

How is it possible to vet for attractiveness unless everyone invited agrees everyone else is attractive before going? Most women I know are so choosy about what they find attractive that the only way you’d get 10 women to agree that any individual man is attractive is that he’d have to be a model. I don’t know many straight models who have an interest in orgies. They don’t typically want to share.

johnnyanmac 3 days ago | parent | prev [-]

I'm a pretty introverted guy, so feel free to correct me here, but:

I fail to see how orgies and social gatherings have much correlation. The kind of people who are engaged enough to attend an orgy probably have entirely different dynamics, boundaries, and safeties to establish than the ritual of getting casual people to even show up at the door.

titanomachy 3 days ago | parent [-]

Yeah I totally agree with you, I think the grandparent comment is a non-sequitur in the overall conversation. I just wanted to summarize the video because I hadn’t seen it before and it was kind of interesting.

johnnyanmac 3 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

>This post is for paid subscibers

Yeah I'm pretty upset. I just want to read the data but the "freemium" method is listening to a portion of a 20 minute talk? America in a nutshell.

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z3ugma 4 days ago | parent | prev [-]

“ This post is for paid subscribers “

gpm 4 days ago | parent [-]

I think the intent is you watch the 20 minute conference talk at the top, not read the paywalled post.

johnnyanmac 3 days ago | parent | next [-]

> The main part of the talk is available for anyone to watch, and the Q&A section is for paid supporter.

So I listen to part of a talk and don't get the actual feedback on the talk unless I pay them? It's like the opposite of the Socratic method.

Animats 4 days ago | parent | prev [-]

Right. You can watch the video, which is better than most YouTube videos, for free.

johnnyanmac 3 days ago | parent [-]

You need a better Youtube feed in that case.