This is actually a huge part of "getting better" as an autistic. A large amount of this masking is a trauma response from childhood when authority figures were a threat and not understandable so you pretend and "mask" and appease.

But once you are older and able to sieze your own power and set your own boundaries? The healthiest high functioning autist I know share this "don't give a fuck " attitude.

Very sad for the hell lower functioning ones must live in... Almost like the horror stories of locked in comas.