Yeah I agree with that, basically genuine choice for all.

BTW I just don't want "deep" bonds, but some sort of bonds is always good. Not sure how "deep" he meant though.

may I ask why?

As I get older and see these things play out, I agree less and less. There's a physical toll on your health that gets paid for living a lifestyle like this. Society pays part of the cost of this (at the very least anyone on the same health insurance plan).

I feel icky saying this but we should make a strong effort as a society to stamp out anti-social behaviors. Addictions are very high on that list.

You might think that you can engage this way without being a burden to others, but you can't.