In their mind, I guess everyone is a strong leader, as they say everyone judges themselves by effort and others by results.

From a employee's perspective. I think you get a good idea, when working for a company, if your leader's vibes are off.

If they have a ego or can have a adult conversation or like to avoid it. Since life is not a 'silver lining'

You will meet some behaviours (which you can call toxic or not ) But times are changing, and people are less patient.