99% of my kid’s education happens outside of the school. in 2025 if a student is “dumb” it is 100% her/his and parent’s fault, not “administration” or “school system”

both could be better but if you rely on any “system” or “administration” for your well-being you are not going to end up well…

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leakycap 11 hours ago | parent | next [-]

> 99% of my kid’s education happens outside of the school.

If this is true, or even close - your kid desperately needs a new school, an IEP, or some other sort of immediate intervention.

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bdangubic 3 hours ago | parent [-]

My kid goes to $50k/year private school so school itself is not the issue. the issue is that school isn’t meant for education. if it was you would now be able to solve a differential equation and I can fairly certainly say you can’t even though I am guessing you are highly educated person. you also probably can’t recite periodic table of elements or answer 99.76% of questions you got from “education”

the education begins and ends at home and is highly personal. in this day and age with everything kids have at their disposal, if they get majority of their education at school they are on the wrong track

	▲	leakycap an hour ago \| parent [-]
		> My kid goes to $50k/year private school so school itself is not the issue. You spend $50k a year on a private school that is achieving 1% of the education needs of your child? That's about $400 per average school day. Does this include food, boarding, and speciality IEP care or something?

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opan 16 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

What sort of education are they getting out of school? I know I learned a lot browsing the web and playing games as a kid, but maybe you also mean something more directed like tutoring.

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skylurk 12 hours ago | parent [-]

As a kid, I learned the most from activities like:

- visiting museums

- going to the zoo

- running a lemonade stand

- volunteering at soup kitchen

- joining a sports team

My parents set me up for all of those, I would have just read books on the couch otherwise.

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1718627440 9 hours ago | parent [-]

This is the kind of knowledge you are supposed to have gotten before going to school. We have these institutions called schools, BECAUSE that dense kind of knowledge requires rote memorization at the beginning, which is hard to acquire elsewhere.

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skylurk 6 hours ago | parent [-]

If there was any rote memorisation at my school, I don't remember it. I do remember being forced to write until my fingers were raw. So yes, practicing writing gave me a valuable skill I would not have picked up on my own: I can sharpen a mean pencil.

	▲	1718627440 6 hours ago \| parent [-]
		That's the first and maybe second year. You can't tell me you haven't done anything in the other decade you were there. Biology is famous for being only about memorization, but there is something in every subject. Grammar rules, vocab and poems in the language classes, laws in physics, philosophy has a bunch of concepts. What else are concept names in CS if not simply terms to be learned? The point is however not only to train you how to learn or to get you to know facts, but most importantly to learn the tools of a subject and to let you be able to see abstractions. You need to do a lot of arithmetic before you can grasp analysis. I can't think of explaining mathematical models to a person who never got to use Numbers. A lot of things can only be learned by doing them. Do you want to tell me anything you learned past class 6, can be learned by doing the activities you listed? It feels very weird to hear from people on the internet (who I think are adults), that they never moved on from being ~7 years old. (Sorry, that was not intended as an ad hominem, maybe you are a professor in X, but how can you explain, that you think school can be substituted by e.g. selling lemonade, past primary school?) The alternative is that you are a modern da Vinci and could invent all of modern science yourself. In this case congratulations, but maybe you should have gone to university earlier. You would however realize that most people aren't like that and do learn more then selling lemonade at school.