Interesting, for me Hacker News is just about being reasonable. Consequently, I find all other online places so far unreasonable. I am on Reddit, but honestly, it’s more of an anthropology thing rather than anything else. Sometimes I see if I can vibe with the subreddits, and I can. The problem is usually I feel awful because a good faith discussion generally can’t be held. To me, vibing in many subreddits just means promoting values that I don’t actually stand behind.

Can definitely understand that... Most of my Reddit use is limited to a few more technical subreddits that are focused on older tech. I can't stomach going anywhere near the political subs, for example.

What's been a learning experience for me is seeing Reddit, HN, Facebook, discords, private slacks, and the mainstream media discuss some thing I went through, and the different faces they all have about it. Reddit was just a barrel of negativity about it. So was half of TikTok. Facebook however was mostly full of positivity and happiness, but obviously my Facebook feed is curated to be my Facebook friends. Maybe it's something about the "anyone can join" aspect that both enhances but also destroys the community?

In reditt, the exact same comment can give you 1K upvotes along with lots of gratz/you-are-the-man/misc-admiration replies or 1K downvotes/you-suck/you-are-a-retard/misc-hate replies along with a moderator/shadow ban, depending on which sub-reditt you are in.