I feel like a lot of the discussions revolve around right or wrong in some absolute sense. I see it more as a question of authority: do you want me to respect your perspective, and are you willing to respect my perspective as equally “right“, respecting my authority on the same level as your own? I invite you to think about why it is important to you to make me agree, and consider how it feels like to you if I were to push my own values and ideas onto you.

Is it a sign of strength to require me to use your map, or is it a sign of strength if you adapt to mine, regardless of how many irrational or rational reasons I may give for my preference or not? Why, if somebody expresses discomfort or calls something oppressive or wrong, do you need to “set things right“ instead of just respecting their discomfort? What is the cost to you? This is meant as actual questions for exploration.

Remember that even Darwin meant by “survival of the fittest“ the one who is able to adapt, rather than the one who is sticking to some “principles“ and engaging in unnecessary fights. Unnecessary, in the objective sense of survival.